Well, today was very informative, both good & bad. I had my 20 week ultra sound today to see if you are a boy or girl & to make sure that you are developing normally & that you are healthy. The most wonderful news is that we now know that you are a boy! We no longer have to refer to you as the baby, we can now call you by your name: Ryan Christopher Allard. We are so excited to know "what" you are & to start referring to you by name. I have to admit, that I was surprised because I really thought you were a girl. I am just so blessed to have you & thankful that the Lord has given you to us. Daddy is very excited as well & of course, we can't wait to meet you!
The doctor also had to give us some distressing news as well. The first bit of information is that there is something wrong with your left kidney. The ultra sound showed that it was distended (enlarged), but they don't know why. We have to go to a Perinatologist to have a special high tech ultra sound done to see if they can find out what is going on. Needless to say, Daddy & I are very scared. The doctor said that you may have to take medicine for the rest of your life or that you may have to have surgery to have it removed, we just don't know yet. We are continuing to pray everyday that the Lord will protect & heal you & that whatever it is, it goes away on its own. It saddens Daddy & me to know that you may have to start out in this world with an obstacle, but be assured, that no matter what, we will always love you & we will do whatever it takes to make sure you are healthy & happy.
As if the kidney information wasn't enough, they also informed us that my cervix is shortening. This usually happens at the end of the pregnancy when you are ready to be born. It is way too early for you to come, so this is not good news. I have to start taking shots once a week to hopefully stop it from progressing & I am on modified bed rest now. When I get home from work & on weekends, I have to lay flat to keep any pressure off my cervix to help it not to dilate. Apparently my cervix is in the "normal" range when there is no pressure, but when they pushed down on my belly which applied pressure to my cervix, it dropped to 2.8 centimeters. 2.5 centimeters is when things start to get really serious. So again, Daddy & I are praying that God will continue to watch over me & to help my body to cooperate & do what it should. We just love you so much & even though we want to meet you, it is way too early right now for your safety.
Some other good news I can report is that I can feel you kick quite frequently. It makes me feel confident that you are strong & healthy. The doctor said that my placenta is on the front side of my uterus, so when you kick, in order for me to feel it, you have to kick through it which is like kicking through a pillow. She said that most women whose placenta is in this position don't feel the kicks until much later & sometimes, not at all. Therefore, you have to be kicking pretty hard for us to feel you!
Speaking of us, Daddy got to feel you kick for the first time on Sunday. He was so excited! He talks to you every night before we go to bed. He tells you how much he loves you & how happy he is that you are coming & he always asks for you to give him a kick. You haven't responded to his direct requests yet, but when I feel you moving, he tries to "catch" you at those times.
I just wanted to check in & let you know of all the information we have received. We are just so blessed to have you in our life. You keep growing & getting stronger & keep kicking Mommy!
Here are some pictures from our visit. A profile view & the confirmation that you are a boy!